The Importance (And Nuances) Of Texting

Although we are definitely long gone from the “olden days” at this point, so many men and women out there still hold onto the belief that all of the work involved with dating someone and not just getting their interest, but maintaining it as well, are taken care of when you are with each other in person, whether that be while on a date, or if you are spending the night.

However, it definitely bears reminding that this is not the case, not only because it is the truth, but more importantly because if you neglect this fact, you end up killing the relationship prematurely.

With the rise of the digital age, it makes sense that so much of our daily communication is done through online channels such as texting or messaging on apps.

But just because you aren’t looking eye-to-eye while having these online conversations, doesn’t mean you aren’t making an impression on them one way or the other.

In fact, so many potential relationships fizzle out after just the first few initial text messages, even if your initial in-person conversation has the two of you hitting it off fantastically.

For example, if you are constantly texting the man or woman you want to potentially start dating, it can become overbearing very quickly and you will come off as needy and too into him or her.

And that will push them away from you, even before you offer the prospect of going out on a real date.

If you have already established some sort of romantic connection before starting to text each other though, you do have a little bit of leeway on this, although not as much as many people realize.

You can definitely be eager to see them again and actually go on a date, but there is obviously a limit before the person on the other end sees you less as boyfriend or girlfriend potential, and more as someone who isn’t worth their time romantically speaking.

Now even after you’ve established a relationship with your significant other, keep in mind that they way that you text each other can still be your downfall.

Once you are in a committed relationship, many times the expected frequency of your texts flips completely.

Instead of trying to avoid texting too much, you may need to start texting him or her every hour to let them know what you are doing.

And you must text them good morning and good night each and every day or things will go badly for you (at least if you fail to send those texts for a few days in a row).

But this is not the case for all people, as many couples like to maintain their independence, even while dating.

Since there are so many different possibilities in terms of how to best text your significant other, the best thing to do is to feel your partner out and match how they text you, at least in the beginning.

In general though, it would be a good idea to match the overall length and frequency of your messages to hers, which in effect ensures that you aren’t being too overbearing, while at the same time aren’t making her feel like she is being overbearing either.

For more in-depth tips on how to effectively text to a romantic interest, check out this guide from Lifehacker on just that.

Texting is a very simple tool to communicate with people online, but it can be a nightmare for those in the dating world who do not know how to effectively use it.

So always keep these texting tips in mind the next time you are looking to connect with someone else romantically, or if you just want to keep your relationship in good standing as a whole!

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