In today’s world, it is much more common for couples to move in together before getting married.
Part of that has to do with the fact that couples want to see how they live together before making things fully official through marriage, and part of it also has to do with the simple fact that since it is now socially acceptable to move in together, unmarried couples are more liberal in making that decision.
In either case, with couples moving in with one another, there are a whole new host of challenges waiting for them.
And depending on how they deal with them, they can either solidify their relationship, or force their relationship to end due to differences that may seem impossible to overcome.
However, that latter case is something that we here believe can be completely avoided, if you know how to handle the ups and downs of moving in together.
With that in mind, we are going to provide the best tips on moving in together to help make this vital step in any relationship pass with flying colors.
The first thing to keep in mind is that moving in together will inevitably reveal less appealing traits in both you and your partner.
For example, if you’ve never stayed the night together, then maybe you or your partner will reveal their incessant snoring the first night together.
Or it can even be as simple as you not washing your dishes after you finish using them at dinner time, which might be a pet peeve of your partner.
To prepare you and your partner for such issues, it is important to communicate them well before moving in together.
Take the time to learn about your partner’s pet peeves, and discuss what potential things that the two of you do could put the other person on edge.
If they are things that are correctable, such as washing the dishes, then it is in both of your best interests to correct that issue as soon as possible.
If it is a more medical issue such as snoring, then you guys will need to find a way to work around it, such as the other partner using earplugs when sleeping to prevent them from hearing the snoring.
Keep in mind with all of this that you both want to live together because you love each other deeply, and such small issues should not be that big of a deal if it means getting to live together in an intimate setting.
Another common problem has to do with all of the stuff that the two of you are bringing together in a single living space, and the fact that there may simply not be enough room for everything.
If this is a problem for you, then you need to communicate openly with your partner on what stuff to throw out and what stuff to make room for in your new shared home.
Compromise is very important when it comes to figuring out what to throw out and what to keep – the two of you should consider yourself a singular relationship, and thus both parties need to be happy and satisfied to make things work.
If you think that you can convince your partner to throw out all of their stuff while you keep all of your stuff is a win for you, then you aren’t looking at the big picture – that may very well be a win for you, but it is a big lose for your relationship.
Moving in together will always come with its challenges.
But that is something that you and your partner both need to realize is for the much greater good of being able to share each and every moment of your lives together under one roof.
Whether there are issues involved immediately upon moving in, or issues that come up over time, the best course of action is to always communicate and compromise with your partner to come up with the best solution for both of you as a couple.